Growing Up - not that cool

I am not happy today as I am missing my college days :( Growing up is not an option - it is a compulsion. It also means to be  having to live with the fact that those who were a part of daily life will not be the same anymore.

My best friend Niki moved on for MBA and I miss her dearly. Having talked to her after a month or so is making me miss her more and I am not liking this at all. Someone with whom I used to share my daily life is now near in terms of kms. but very far in terms of talks. None the less - the awesome friendship continues.

I remember how in school and college, meeting friends was like something I never thought of as it seemed so obvious. With school ending, the realisation dawned that we need to go on our ways to have a good career.
Luckily, with all the school friends in the same city and light college days, it was very east to catch up and have long phone chats.

Another set of friends in college and all so cool :) Awesome engineering days where the only definition of life was fun. College meant meeting friends, movies, and total masti.

Friendship day was a day when catching up with every buddy was compulsory. It was a time of Shiv Abhishek at my place and everytime I had to miss a part of it to meet my dearest friends. God never got offended as God knew this wont last :(

All these friends of mine are now far apart as I live in a different city. I grew up and realised I need to study more etc etc :( and now I am working :| but my beloved ones are far.

I miss them.. I miss being a teen ager.. i miss bunking college.. I miss you all

Why always THINK complicated ??

Here it goes !! I read something - like it - and enjoy it !! Could be that I don't like it. So ?? What should I do ??  Can comment how bad it is and why it was written or just let go as my words wont help it in any way or may be I am judging too fast.

Off late I've observed this - a simple post on facebook and you can see a long list of argument on it. There was a topic about veg and non-veg food. People came up with all sorts of arguments to support veg and non-veg. The thing was the topic did not stick to the actual matter but was dragged to some religious issues. And that is what is shocking !!! Please do not go to such an extent to prove your point that you start proving a different theory all together.

Also, wouldn't it be good to simply avoid such arguments ? Like i may prefer being a veg and someone loves non-veg. So instead of criticizing they being non-veg, I can as well enjoy the veg food :)
This is just one example.

There could be long FUTILE arguments on a movie as well - one person liked it and other hated it and they started proving their point. And trust me such waste of time arguments are ok once a while. For people who are making it a habit - STOP !! There is still time.

We all should learn to accept the liking  and dis likings of others as well. It is ok to hate something but you simple cannot compel others to do the same. Leave things for others to decide and respect their decision (sometimes atleast).

We should try and think simple and let things be simple :) It is okay !!  It is life after all and not just yours :)

Uncertainty

Well.. was reading my favorite author's book and was in a lovely mood.. suddenly heard the song 'lag ja gale...'.. and the mood changed completely.. Well.. I am in the best phase of life.. everything is so nice.. I had never expected such a nice life.. But ya.. suddenly i feel heavy thinking that nothing is certain.. simply nothing.. it took..merely one second.. my mood has changed completely.. i thought I'd be asleep by now.. but :) I am here writing... sharing this uncertainty !!!

The best and the wost part about life is uncertainty.. I believe this uncertainty keeps us going.. keeps us motivated to live.. for it was not like this.. and everything was known.. imagine !! Would you like living like knowing you are going to die on a particular date and such will be the events leading to it and also you would have no option of changing the course.. no doubt.. everything is destined.. pre-written as they say.. but still it is unknown to us.. this also makes us feel that we are...in some way.. writing our destiny.. I believe in both.. oh !! that is a different topic..

Wooh !! So uncertain is this topic itself.. proving.. that uncertainty is what life is all about.. truely justifying why I included this topic in my blog :)

Enjoy the uncertainty - it gives you the right to predict , imagine and all sorts of wonderful things - well it does make life uncertain too :D I do not know what to say !!

For me.. I am happy that life is uncertain.. this gives me a motive to love people now.. for i do not know.. what is in store next :)

Missing

Sometimes..it becomes an integral part of life. By this. I meant MISSING someone :(

Few people enter our lives and become special - Friends and Partners
Few are special right from the day we know them - Family

But remember.. none stay forever.. either we tend to move away or they move away.. none by choice.. but circumstances do not allow us to LIVE together.. Hey.. by this I meant just staying far off.. relations remain as intact as possible :)

Then starts the phase of missing... hmm.. people who are extremely busy.. even they miss someone or the other.. just that they do get time to miss but not the time to tell the one missed how much they are missed..

Some people who are missed don't bother.. they knowingly or unknowingly ignore the ones who miss them.. guess what happens to such people.. very soon.. telling you.. very soon.. they miss the same lot..

And then there is both way missing.... lovers miss each other.. parents miss children and vice versa.. etc..

So missing, as u can see, is everywhere..

But how can we do away with it ?? Nopes !! We can't avoid it !! Love doesn't allow us to avoid it. The day we stop loving..we will stop missing.. but can we stop loving ?? It is like can we stop our heart to beat whenever we wish ?? Certain things end with life.. So does missing...

Umm.. I miss a lot of people.. and few I miss a lot.. perhaps.. Ive made it a habit of missing them.. even if they r with me.. I miss them thinking how will it be when they r not with me.. :(

Missing people is crazy.. and being crazy is normal :)

When you have everything....

So yes.. once again.. about LIFE !! God has been really kind to me. Gave me everything I demanded. Sometimes I sit back and think.. do we actually  JUST get whatever we deserve or God gives us as much as possible :) But then that's a different story.


Was just thinking.. I have practically everything that one should have.. ya few things one shouldn't have - like extra weight :D But again that is a different issue. So ya.. I should be happy..  I mean really happy.. Good education.. wonderful family.. a decent job.. and money enough to waste also... Um.. for someone who wil look at my life from a distance.. yes.. will feel I have no reason to be sad.. :) And actually I dont have..

But.. I am feeling sad :( because who likes a perfect life ?? !!!

I miss those days when for a very small amount of money also I had to wait and used to be so elated once I could save the desired amount :) But today.. savings are cool.. and spending is cooler.. but what is missing.. is the real fun in spending the money.. hope you getting what I mean...

Next.. this sense of boredom.. in student life.. we learnt new stuff.. and lot of hard work was involved.. but today... we are no doubt learning.. but somehow.. that pressure is not there.. the one reading this might think m so boastful.. or may be i am a cribber.. but few will be able to relate to it... it feels great after you have faced and overcome challenges rather than just sitting and waiting for some challenge to come your way...


Then.. the worst thing.. being idle.. perhaps the worst feeling.. there are times when we want to be really idle but that is only after doing lot of.. i mean real amount of work.. but being idle after being idle :D is really boring.. and it kinda kills me.. not like I don't like it.. but only for a while..

So.. Life.. it gave me... everything.. and now I want it to modify whatever it gave me.. I wont like to lose any of it.. but can't accept in the same form.. Gosh.. change is what we want.. change is what we dislike...

Humans and Human nature !! God.. and actually.. God only knows !!

Mummy :)

Mummy !! :) The one who is responsible for my life.. the one who gave me this life...

She taught me everything possible.. everything she knew..

When I was a little girl.. and till date.. she cooked for me whatever I liked.. and never expected that someday even I would do the same..

She bought me many gifts to make me happy.. and her happiness always was attached with mine...

She taught me so that one day I could be well educated...

She stayed awake so that I don't feel lonely while studying...

She prayed.. prayed daily... and her prayers were always for me.. for my health.. for my education... selflessly she prayed.. :)

Today.. I feel guilty.. somewhere I have changed.. grown up.. her care seems too much.. I hurt her.. but she.. she smiles back.. I know she will be waiting for me exactly where I told her Good Bye.. for she knows.. her daughter.. needs her at every step.. no matter how independent I become.. no matter how much I try to hide.. I need you mummy..

I know you are not reading this bacause who don't access internet.. and I wont be able to tell this to you because am too shy.. but yes.. for others who can.. tell ur mummy.. you love her.. trust me.. mums just need love.. and love.. no gift..nothing.. our happiness..and our love.. this is what keeps them going..

I love my MUM.. and I am sorry for hurting her many times.. but I am happy.. I could apologize most of the times.. :)

WorDzz

A very important part of life - Words that we utter !!!!

Each one of us talk... some talk less and some talk more... and everytime we talk.. we use words.. some knowingly...some unknowingly.. some purposely... and some not on purpose... and.. these words.. have great impact on people... We should actually be careful with our WORDS !!

Words... if used properly.. could be a solution to loads of issues... and when used not so properly can give rise to real big issues...

Why is pen mightier than sword ?? Cz its all about words... Words can cause a war between countries... and words can also be the reason for converting enemies into friends.. this is the power of the WORDS !!!

Be it any occasion... say felicitation ceremony... words play an important role.... to felicitate someone words are the most important factor.. cz rewards are much more welcomed compared to awards....

Many people are very emotional when it comes to words.. as in.. one word here and there.. and dre world changes.. me too belong to the same category... :D

You wanna motivate anyone.. use proper words... you wanna console... again...the solution is words.... i mean... what would someone do widout words ?? Difficult...

Here... again... i am able to express my ideas on words only because i have words to support my ideas.... Thanks to the one who developed wordss !!!

ExpECtaTion

You are reading this article and you expect I'll write something that will make some sense. Right!!!!

So... expectation lies everywhere.. I wonder what people mean when they say 'Dont Expect'.. Expectation is a part of every relationship... infct expectation exists even if there isnt any relationship.. For instance... I meet a stranger... Dont I expect that he/she will behave properly ?? There is goes.. expectation... is always dre .

At times.. people tell me.. stop expecting.and I am like SHOCKED ... now... the explanation goes like this... I expect my parents to care for me... I expect my best pal to remain my best pal forever.. and the list goes on.. aint these expectations a part of life... I mean.. I have heard people saying they dont expect but the fact is evryone does and trust me there isnt any harm in expecting.

Again.. now..some must be wondering wht al am saying... Look.. Am nt asking u to expect that the star will fall if you want a wish to be fulfilled... cz that isnt any expectation.. that is a fancy...
But ya... expecting a good result is something ok :)

Loverss.... umm... dre is common saying..love widout expectation.. sorry to say.. it doesn't hold true... why wont I expect love from my partner ?? Why wont I expect him to give me time ?? Aint these basic needs of life ?? Arnt these wrongly termed as Great Expectations ??

I am a good student... and people who know me expect me to do well and may be it is the urge to fulfill there expectations I put in more effort to get better results.. Expectations have positive impact...

By this all i wanna convey is... please... stop asking people around to stop expecting .. first give up expectations form your end... but ya.. do think if giving up expectations will help you.. now... now.. there are varied range of expectations... and this topic is open to discussion but no arguements :)

Dreamz

Do we chase our dreams or is it vice-versa ??

Can dreams be reality or they are never meant to be so ??

What we see in our dream why do we at all see them ?? Is there any specific interpretation ?? Or is it a state of sub-conscious ??

What lies in the sub-conscious ?? I personally feel that if understood well our sub-conscious can create miracles. There are hidden truths in our sub-conscious.. I mean I feel so. These truths connect us with our future.. or may be reveal some unknown facts about us.

If anyone.. anywhere...can help me out with DREAMS.. please do so!!!

HaPPiNess

I say I am happy :) cz I dont find any sense in saying I am not happy. Will anyone be interested in reading sad stories? May be a few but the mass wishes HAPPINESS !!!

Happiness..as we all know..is a state of mind... for me it the state of my 'MANN'... I really cant be happy even after topping in my exams if a close friend of mine couldn't clear it... mind says be happy.. heart says.. dnt b selfish.

Some people believe that materialistic stuff bring happiness to our life.. umm.. to some extent it is correct.. i cant deny the fact that I feel very happy when i wear new clothes..accessories..and alike... but is this what we call happiness ?? Not realllyy... cz these things do not touch our soul.. and happiness felt by the soul is only when other souls around it our happy..

Now.. a child gets happiness wen he gets love from people around him... scold a child...and thn give him a choco... he takes time to frgt the scolding.. but hug him... and kiss him.. he'll forget in seconds... LOVE is the way to HAPPINESS....

Again... peace is another important factor we need to be happy... I have pounds wid me.. but i am scared of INcome Tax officers... hey..am nt at peace.. so evn pounds dnt bring happiness... I have my hrd erned money.. and clean money.. i am peaceful.. and yep.. I am happyy...

Company of loved ones... family...friends... bring immense happiness.. as these are the people with whom we can share our thoughts... and we know that with these people around life's easier :)

Happinness... I Love You.. Cz Happpppyy is what I wish to be... HAppiness is for what I look for... and it is for Happiness I wish to spread Happiness :)

Best Sail Ever

Hey hey... not talking about any cruise.... talking about Friend-Ship !!

I have made loadssssss of friends... and God.. I wonder.... if there exists LIFE without friendship...

Friends- are angels when we are down; co-criminals in crime :D ; best advisers for broken heart; excellent match-makers :D :P ; and guess the best listeners ever born !!!

From jumping around to having formal dinners... from fighting for chocos to the hugs after victory... friends have always been around :)

I am sad.. I know who to call up.. I am happpy.. and again.. I know who's gonna throw the party to celebrate my happiness... Yup!! They are my Pals :)

We never make friends .. as it is not a mind game.. the knot is tied gradually.. heart connects the threads and what emerges is a beautiful relationship - we call it ' Yaara di yaari ' :)

I see friendship everywhere... I see friendship is every relationship... my mum is my sweetest pal... God is my best pal... and all my pals... are angels ( few devils too :D ) sent by God for me...

Hey friends... I'll be dre for you'll as welll :)

Love - very much related to life :)

Nopes... not the usual thoughts about love... or may be the usual ones !!! Anyways.. since I hve this oppurtunity... I'd like to share my ideas :)

All of us... sometime...someday...must have said...someone... ' I Love You '...
Not necessarily to our partner... but friend... family.... anyone.... and these words... are indeed magical... cz the response to them is always filled with love :)

In the journey of life... I find the path of love the best... Simply because it is the path of LOVE...

I look at the moon... the stars... and wonder if they would have made sense to my heart if I had not known what LOVE is....

It is very simple to love... I'll tell you how... ' love simply '

Devotion is a form of love.... I cannot devote my time..money... anything into something that I dont love...

Worship is a form of Love... I Love God.. and hence I worship him :)

Care...sacrifice...emotions... are all...other names of love...

Love.. an integral part of life... and for some.. Love is Life !!!!

Life

I know not if you will read it but I know i'll keep sharing !!

Life ... When does it start ?? Many say from the day we are born but I have a slightly different opinion. Life begins from the day we wish to start living... from the day we realise that life is one of the best gift given by the Almighty... and not from the day we set up our goal but from the day we start striving to achieve it.

I look back at my life.. trust me.. I have many reasons for writing a book on it.. I mean not only me but those who know me well have advised me so :)

Life is a beautiful journey and like any other journey we meet many people out here.... woohh... isn't it great ?? Few of them we meet and we wanna tread on every path with them.. few...eerr...we dont even wanna see dre face.. and the journey continues...

Is Death end of this journey ?? I dont know.... all I know is to make the best of this journey so that wen i reach the final destination( again unknown) I wont have any regrets...

If you wanna Live Life King Size then first strive to become the King .... not just financially... Live to the fullest.. as you never know...when you have reached your destination ;)